Frannie's Back

Sorry I've been away for so long. Frannie got a bit sidetracked. Happens to the best of us, right?  Right???  Let me explain…

I allowed that silver-tongued manipulative ex-boyfriend of mine to cry his way back into my life. "Breaking up with you was a mistake." "I love you so much!" "Please don't leave me…" You get the idea. That lasted for a whole week. At the end of that week is when he screwed up for the last time. You see, it turns out he had been two-timing me the entire time we had been together and he was still doing it. Seven days after convincing me to try again with him, his "other girlfriend" and I crossed paths. The whole thing blew up in his face and now he has lost both of us.

I know that's not what this blog is about, but there is a reason I've shared this information. I have a First Date tonight and I wanted to provide some background before I blog about it.

I had been talking to this guy, "D," on the dating website for weeks. Normally, if weeks have gone by and the guy hasn't asked me out on a real date yet, I'd write him off. But he was out of town for most of the time we'd been talking. (At least, that's what he claims. Despite my recent history, I'm still of the mind to trust a stranger until he gives me a reason not to.) So he couldn't very well take me out on a date when he was over 100 miles away.

Before he came back to town is when I started talking to my ex again. As a sign of good faith in trying to rekindle our relationship, I made the decision to delete my online dating profile. My last action before I did so was to send one last message to "D" explaining why I was deleting my profile and I provided my personal email address in case he wanted to stay in touch "as friends." In other words, I blew this guy off for my ex before he even had a chance to meet me.

Well, he did email me and wished me luck. That was nice of him. Only two days later was I replying back telling him how it didn't take long for my ex to remind me exactly why he was my EX and did "D" want to go out on a date? To my complete shock and surprise, he said yes! I mean, here's me… blowing him off for an ex-boyfriend then basically coming back begging for another chance and… he gave it to me???

So tonight is the big First Date with "D" who already has points in my book. Second chances are hard to come by these days. Stay tuned to see how it goes!

First SECOND Date?

So I had been hoping to go out on a few more FIRST dates before posting about any second dates, but it just didn't work out that way.

Instead, I had my first SECOND date. I know what you're thinking… based on the first date I had with this guy ("W") I shouldn't have even agreed to a second. But I'm a big believer in second chances. And it wasn't like he murdered anyone or anything. So when "W" asked me to go bowling, I agreed.

He was polite enough to give me the choice of bowling in my town or in his town. At the end of our first date, I had told him I was willing to drive to his area for our second date. But seeing as he was giving me the choice, I chose my town. I know the manager of the bowling alley, and knew he'd be working that night. Safety net.

Well, the date got off to a bad start before it even began… I received a text message about an hour before we were supposed to meet. He asked me if I would mind pushing the date back by an hour. I wasn't thrilled. I gave him a disinterested attitude and told him, "I guess." I asked if everything was okay. He said he was stuck in traffic and getting home later than he expected.  Well I decided turnabout is fair play so I left the house 20 minutes late. Kept him waiting a bit for me. And he did… wait for me. 

The bowling alley has special events on the weekends, so the games are all prepay. We decided on 3 games (plus my rental shoes), and it came to $16. There seemed to be some hesitation on his part before getting out his wallet (attached to his belt loop by a chain). SERIOUSLY??? But he did pay for the games (eventually).

The night started off kind of slow and awkward. For one thing, as we were walking down to our lane, I ran into a friend of mine. Now I'm not in the habit of spending time on my dates talking to other people, but this was a very dear friend who I hadn't seen in a long time because she'd been laid up by surgery. As we were hugging, "hello," "W" kept right on walking down to the lane. Maybe he thought it was rude I stopped to say hi, but wasn't it rude of him not to stop with me so I could introduce him???

I'm not a very good bowler, but I have fun at it. I know what you're all wondering… did he take off his jacket this time?  Yes! He did. He was just wearing a t-shirt underneath. No big secret.

Eventually, we started getting into it and having fun. I even bought us a couple of beers (my idea so my treat). Then… tragedy struck! Halfway through the third game, he tore the cuticle open on his thumb. It was bleeding. (He felt it necessary to show me the blood. SERIOUSLY???) I got him a bandaid, but now he couldn't put his thumb in the ball. Game over.

So I put the balls away and returned the shoes. "W" asks me, "So are you just going home now?" Not, "Would you like to get a drink?" Not, "Would you like to get a bite to eat?" Just, "Are you going home now?" Well if you're going to ask me like that, then Yeah! I'm going home now (as far as your concerned. In reality, I met a friend at a bar for another beer and some wings.) He said something to the effect of, "we should do this more often." I agreed but…

I think that's it for "W." There's obviously no chemistry happening. And as little else as I have going on at the moment, I think I'm better off staying home with my cat that risking another disastrous date with "W."

What do you think???